When we live a life too busy to pause and reflect, there is little time to relieve ourselves of the tension we’re experiencing.
When we’re constantly in a state of tension, mild or significant, we’re depriving ourselves of not only physical health, but also relational health. Health with other people. We simply have no room in our being to be present with them.
Not only that, but out of tension arises behaviors that go against our values. Behaviors we often regret in hindsight. Behaviors that push people away despite how much we long for their connection.
One of the simplest, yet most important and sometimes quite difficult things we can do as leaders is to relieve ourselves of our own tension, by realizing empathy with ourselves.