The 3 Basic States of Empathizing

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Imagine two circles: self & other.

Not empathizing is them separated,
Empathizing is them intersecting,
Hyper-empathizing is them overlapping.

When we hyper-empathize,
we lose any boundary or distinctions between self vs other, and
our sense of identity becomes significantly affected.

This can be good or bad.

A mother throwing herself to save her child
is hyper-empathizing.
A business owner who feels like a failure
because her company was a failure,
and kills herself,
is hyper empathizing.

It’s important we learn the ability
to notice when hyper-empathizing works against us, so as
to choose another way of being.

Let us not unwillingly fall prey
to the whims of others.